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Let’s get to it.

Nobody taught me about sex.

Not my father.
Not my mother.
Not school.

All I had was locker room talk, a few blurry porn scenes in my teens, and a single conversation with my cousin — the only man who told me anything real.

“Always wear a condom. Protect yourself from STDs.”

Then he died when I was 23.

And I was left completely alone to figure it out.

No roadmap. No guidance.
Just trial and error... and a lot of emotional wounds.

I started learning by watching women closely:

• The way she bit her lip when I kissed her that way.

• The way her eyes dimmed when I touched her that way.

• Taking mental notes. Adjusting. Growing.

Over time, one brutal truth became clear:

Almost everything we were taught about sex is wrong.

I used to believe:

• Women don’t really like sex.

• Sex is dirty, and wanting too much is bad.

• "Good girls" don’t want to be touched, taken, devoured.

All lies.

The truth?

Women are incredibly sexual.

Sometimes even more than men.

Just look below at the global success of 50 Shades of Grey — written for women, by a woman, about women being dominated.

The first Fifty Shades of Grey film (2015) grossed $570 million worldwide at the box office.

The trilogy (all 3 films) together grossed over $1.3 billion worldwide.

Audience surveys confirmed: 75% to 80% of moviegoers were women.

What does that man?

Women crave to be dominated in the bedroom.

To surrender.

To be ravished by a man who knows how to lead.

To let go and enjoy wild sex (only by a man whom they trust)

But you must understand:

Healthy masculine sexuality is not selfish. It's a sacred duty.

As a man, your role is to:

Protect her sexuality:

• Never shame her for her cravings.

• Make her feel completely safe in your presence.

• Treat her deepest desires like treasure, not ammunition.

Provide for her sexuality:

• Keep your body strong, your health vital, your erections reliable.

• Discover her fantasies — and give her permission to live them.

• Stay creative and playful, so she never feels bored.

• Lead her confidently into passion.

It’s okay to want "too much" sex.

David Deida said it perfectly:

If you want her, ache for her, can’t hold yourself back —
good.

She doesn’t want you to be polite in bed.
She wants you to be present.
Grounded.
Claiming her.

But for her to surrender to you emotionally and sexually, two forces must be alive:

Emotional Connection + Sexual Leadership

If she doesn't feel emotionally seen,
she won't open sexually.

If she doesn't feel sexually desired,
she won't stay emotionally connected.

Both must live inside you.
Both are your responsibility as a man.

How to Make Her Beg For It

Attraction isn't magic.

It’s chemistry.

Specifically, three brain chemicals drive a woman's emotional and sexual desire:

1. Dopamine — The thrill of excitement.

Dopamine is the chemical of surprise and adventure.

When she feels excited unpredictability around you, her body lights up.

Trigger dopamine today:

• Text her during the day:
  "Cancel tonight’s plans. I have something better in mind."
  

• When you arrive home, surprise her with something unpredictable:
  Buy her a flower and tell her it reminded me of you
  

• Playfully blindfold her when she gets home.

Key: Keep her guessing. Never become boring or predictable, that’s how you keep her brain releasing dopamine.

2. Oxytocin — The bond of emotional safety.

Oxytocin is the chemical of trust and warm connection.

When she feels held, heard, and protected by you, her body relaxes and opens.

Trigger oxytocin today:

• Hold her tightly without trying to escalate sexually.

• Make deep eye contact for 10 seconds without saying a word.

• Stroke her hair or rub her shoulders silently while she talks.

Key: Melt her defenses with presence, not pressure.

3. Norepinephrine — The spark of tension and arousal.

Norepinephrine is the chemical of anticipation and heightened emotion.

It’s the energy of wanting — but not getting — immediately.

Trigger norepinephrine today:

• Pull her close like you’re about to kiss her — then whisper “not yet” and step back.
  

• Tease her sexually in public (low voice):
  "I can’t wait to get you alone tonight."
  

• Start to undress her slowly... then stop... then kiss her neck and walk away.
  Take your time with foreplay. Go stream kisses all over her body

Key: Build tension. Make her feel the space before you take her.

VERY IMPORTANT: These first moments set the tone—whether your session unfolds as soft and sensual or hard and rough. Lead with intention based on your mood.

Master the Chemicals. Master Her Desire.

When you weave dopamine (thrill), oxytocin (safety), and norepinephrine (tension) into your daily interactions...

You don’t have to beg for sex.

She will beg you.
She will crave you.
She will seduce you.

And she’ll do it with fire in her eyes and trembling in her body.

Because in her deepest heart…

Every woman dreams of being taken by a man who can lead her — emotionally, physically, spiritually and sexually.

Be that man.

Start tonight.

Stay sexy,
Mohammed