Are you catering to your woman's whims?

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I’m a sucker for my girl.

“Let’s go out tonight.”
Yes baby.

“Kiss me.”
Yes baby.

“Try this on me.”
Yes baby.

I enjoy saying yes to the small things because it lights her up. It keeps our relationship playful and fun.

Most men never notice this slide—until her eyes go dull in bed.

That’s exactly what happened with my father.

After burnout, he stepped back. He’s the typical archetype of man who brings money to the table and thinks his job is done now.

My mom took the lead on finances, decisions, and direction.

At first, it seemed fine. But then small irritations turned into arguments.

She started losing respect for him, and he quietly felt less like himself. Over the years, resentment built and attraction faded.

Years later, he admitted to me:

“I thought I was helping, but I was actually fading away. I wanted the easy route. She didn’t feel safe, and I felt like less of a man.”

This scenario happens constantly today.

Men give up their role because it seems easier. Then slowly, the intimacy dries up. The laughter disappears. The spark dies. Eventually, the relationship feels empty.

She stops reaching for your touch.
She doesn’t look at you with admiration anymore.
You become her helper, not her man.

And you feel it too:

You delay decisions to avoid conflict.
You ask more questions than you answer.
You become agreeable, but never respected.

You become safe. But not seductive.

That’s why 70% of divorces (American Sociological Association) are initiated by women—not because of cheating or abuse—but because the man stopped being present, stopped leading, stopped being a reliable partner.

She never asked to be your boss. She wanted a man she could trust to lead.

History screams the same warning:

• King Edward VIII left the throne for Wallis Simpson. Romantic? Maybe. But it ended in exile. Even she later said: “You have no idea how hard it is to live with a man who gave up everything for you.” He spent the rest of his life attending empty dinner parties in France.

• Marcus Aurelius gave his empress freedom, but during plague and war, he led Rome and wrote Meditations. He kept the empire on course.

• Gandhi let Kasturba run the home—but he led 240 miles on foot to break salt laws and unshackled a nation.

• FDR gave Eleanor space for her causes—but when the Depression hit and WWII broke out, he didn’t flinch. He carried the burden.

Pattern: They gave softness. But never surrendered leadership.

There are three areas where your leadership isn’t optional:

Direction
Paint the 3-year vision in vivid detail. Where are you taking her?

Boundaries
Protect the culture. Say no when it matters. Draw the line when something crosses your values.

Protection
Guard her heart, her body, and the bank account. She needs to feel your stability when life gets uncertain.

When you don’t lead in these areas, she will. But that doesn’t make her feel empowered. It makes her feel exhausted.

And over time, you both lose.

She starts mothering you instead of loving you.
And you start hiding instead of leading.

Therefore the sex dries up.
Resentment builds.
And the home loses polarity.

No one wins when a man hands over the wheel to the woman.

24-Hour Alpha Audit — Play This Game Today

Every moment she hands you is a test of your presence. Here’s how to pass:

• "What should we eat?"
  ❌ "Whatever you want."
  ✅ "Sushi or Italian—your pick."

• "This outfit or that one?"
  ❌ "Either is fine."
  ✅ "The red one—it hits harder."

• "Want to do something tonight?"
  ❌ "Up to you."
  ✅ "Walk at 8. I’ll grab coffee after."

• "Should we leave now?"
  ❌ "If you want."
  ✅ "Ten more minutes, then we bounce."

Score yourself:

• +1 for every clear, direct decision

• +2 if it’s playful or confident

• -1 if you say “whatever,” “I don’t know,” or “up to you”

Target: 10 points this week. No exceptions.

She doesn’t need you to control her. She just wants to feel you lead.

Lead clearly. Speak decisively. Move with presence.

Stay leading,
Mohammed